Roads

 

Roads, these paths that lead us to different destinations. Sometimes they are very exciting sometimes they are not. 

Let's start with the exciting ones

Generally, roads that lead us to success, joy, and fulfillment are what we look forward to. 

It should be exciting to walk the road that leads to meeting a friend you haven't seen in a long time, to walk to your graduation, your wedding venue, or any celebratory event for that matter. Often times when I am sure of where I am headed it makes things easier, I walk with a sense of purpose and certainty, I know that nothing will probably throw me off so I walk with my head held high. These roads lead us to good feelings. They make us feel safe and accomplished and oftentimes make us think highly of ourselves.

For me, at least these roads look like that road that leads me home, as soon as I get off the plane, I quickly recognize the route when I arrive at Kenneth Kaunda international airport, I know I want to take this road, it is exciting and it is what I want at this moment. This road leads me to the people I love, to my place of comfort and belonging. I sure want to take this road, I would take it right now given the chance.


Some roads though I never want to take

The road that leads to any hospital, if I could I would never take that route. It just always comes with so much anxiety and fear of the unknown and sometimes the known. The road that leads to  UTH (the biggest hospital in Zambia) for example, I dislike that road so much, I dislike even the act of passing through to go somewhere else. The first time I took that route was also the last time I set my eyes on the person I will forever love with everything within me.

The road that leads to the grave, at this point I might flip you off a little and you might wonder why I am even writing on this but this is reality. No one wants to take this road, it is a road of anguish, despair, and a kind of deep loss and sorrow that if it was humanly possible I believe we all wanna avoid. This journey to the gravesite at least for me is the longest journey I have ever taken. I will spare you the details. 


Let's make things a little lighter 

The road to getting fired or expelled for those in school. 

Sometimes we may know that what lies ahead is misfortune because our hearts have a way of telling us when we listen closely, we are informed by our inner self beforehand that what lies ahead is news we would rather not bear. But we still take the road because we have to, only to come back sometime later feeling a sense of shame, embarrassment, and otherwise confusion as to what went wrong. 

And some roads lead to both treasure and despair

The same road that leads to the hospital may be the one that leads you to see someone you love for the last time or it may lead you to see a newborn baby. The same road that leads you to get fired in your boss's office may lead you to be hired/promoted in that same office.


We can never be totally sure what lies at the end of the roads we take, if we could we would only take the roads that lead us to greater good but that is never always the case. Whatever the case I pray you take more of the roads that bring you joy, love and fulfilment.


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