Living alone at 21

 I have lived away from home since I was 14years old. As you all might know by now, I went to Chalo Trust christian boarding school. I was there for 5 years. In August 2019,  I went to study in Japan. I lived in a residence house and I shared my room with 3 roommates in the first year and 1 roommate in the second. When I came to college, I did not live in the dorms but instead, I decided to live in the apartments because I am 21 and I  was allowed to live here. I live in a 2 person apartment but my roommate only came in 2 months after I had moved in. Living alone has been such a great experience.


 In the first weeks, the entire apartment was so empty. I literally had only my clothes and the already installed furniture. This place didn't feel like a home. Living alone meant that I was the one to clean the house everyday, to take out the trash, to make sure the lights are off when not in use and to also make sure the door is closed before I sleep and whenever I go out. It dawned on me one day when I was cleaning the tab, that I am actually a full grown adult with a whole house waiting for me to take care of it.

This experience has taught me a lot about myself. For instance, I love to live in a beautiful place, clean and pleasant. I also love wall decorations, specifically, I like pictures on the wall, inspirational words and African women art. 


I also had to start buying plates and pots for the house. I remember one day I was in Walmart and I was like what am I doing in this plates and pots section?  Like me, I remember being 10 years old and now am here buying plates and pots for the house. How did it happen. Wow, just wow, this far I have come. 


I am completely responsible for myself, I can literally come home any time I want and do whatever I want in this house. With great freedom comes great responsibility and it's good to see what I can do without anyone watching me or telling me what to do. This is a true test of who I am and what I value most. 

 Living alone also means I am completely responsible for keeping me fed. And I am still learning how to do it. There are days when I don't eat simply because I feel lazy to cook or that I don't want to eat food alone. I have learnt that it's more fun for me to cook for other people and to eat with other people .


Am still learning how to live alone, to keep myself fed and to make sure this house is kept clean. So far it's been fun and full of learning. Am grateful


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